|With Alan McCormack. Many thanks to Christy (far left) for arranging this.|
Time for a Catch-up Part II: The Family Visits
I’m rather proud of the fact that of all the home matches at Brentford FC this season, I have only missed one (I was working that day). Roch hasn’t missed any. The proud owner of a Carer’s Season ticket, I am following their progress in the Championship with interest. The more games I attend, the more I care. I haven’t quite reached the nail biting agony involved in watching Arsenal but I’m beginning to care about Brentford.* This is a good thing when they win. It was certainly a good thing on 27th September, when Brentford beat Leeds at home 2-1. That was a special one.
This was a greatly anticipated weekend as all of Roch’s brothers, one brother in law and a cousin travelled from Ireland to attend the match with us. Amongst them were three Leeds fans! I’d say sorry guys but really I’m not. WHO ARE YA?
The highlight of the day was meeting right back and goal scorer Alan McCormack after the match. Many thanks to Christy for arranging this. Alan presented Roch with a shirt signed by the Brentford Team and patiently posed for photographs.
These days, although I look forward to family visits, I do
experience a certain amount of anxiety in advance. Roch doesn’t have the
stamina he used to have and tires easily. I need to know that visitors will
listen and understand his needs – and mine – and accept the necessary
restrictions we impose. Gone are the days when a long weekend of activity,
talking and socialising (especially in a group) can be managed. I hope it
doesn’t feel like we are being exclusive and unwelcoming, but truly we are just
trying to make sure he can enjoy himself. So we have to pace the arrangements. I
think the weekend went really well and I hope everyone had a good time. A big
thank you to all for keeping to the arrangements and giving us space to prepare
in advance and time to rest up afterwards. It means a great deal when people
Smaller groups are best now. No more big parties. It’s too
difficult for him to make himself heard. More and more in conversation he
misses his ‘turn’ if there are a number of participants. Gatherings have to be managed differently. He seems so
like his old self, and I’m guessing that’s a relief to people who perhaps
haven’t seen him in a while – not just family, but friends too. So when people
see that he’s not as altered as they perhaps had feared, they assume that he’s
unchanged in other ways, too and expect the old stamina. But it’s not the same and
whilst he remains essentially Roch, his physical capabilities are reduced. Of
course some days are better than others.
It was a good day in October when we had a lovely visit from
Marianne and Laura, Roch’s sisters. They came for the day and it was a wonderful
opportunity for Roch to catch up with them and for them to spend quality time
with their little brother. He is so happy that he has had time this Autumn with
all his brothers and sisters.
|Supported (quite literally) by three of the strong women in his life!|